Road Rage

This type of anger is the controlling, selfish type. Things have to go our way and if they do not I will take matters into my own hands and do what I think is necessary to change the situation. It seems at this stage of a person's anger all reason is lost.

You need to try and understand why you are so angry. If you have a grudge against someone the best thing is to speak to them calmly about it and give them a chance to explain themselves without you interrupting. When you are finished listening to their side of the story you can state your case. Tell them why you are hurt and what you would like them to do to make you feel better.

By talking about the reason for your anger you can diffuse it and let it go. As I have said before anger is not wrong it is when it becomes an uncontrollable force within us that destroys our relationships with our family and friends that it becomes wrong.

It might be a good idea to take public transport to work if you find that driving in the traffic jams in the morning upsets you and leaves you in a violent temper. You could start up a conversation with someone close to you or read the newspaper or a novel. This would allow you to arrive relaxed at the office and you will not have to start off the day in a temper. It is so important to strive to remain calm at all times. This is obviously not always possible, but try to put yourself in a frame of mind that you can be happy and calm.

It is good to remember that the roads are owned by everyone and that we are not the only motorist using them. Live and let live. Realise that there are good drivers and the not so good drivers. As long as they are not endangering the lives of their fellow motorists do not take personally the way they are driving. If we get angry at everyone else's mistakes we will never be anything but angry as no one is perfect.

It is so important to control your thinking. This is where all the trouble starts! Our thoughts become our actions so if our thinking is positive so will our actions be. This way of thinking eventually becomes a way of life and you will find that the intense anger will eventually be something of the past.